Monday, May 18

Was the Soup Really That Good?

A few days ago I was reading one of my old journals and I was reminded of an interesting story from my past.

I was 17 years old and had just graduated from high school. I was reeling from the breakup of a boyfriend, but I was still boy crazy in general (in one month's time, I wrote about five different boys I had crushes on). My best friend Heidi set me up on a date with a guy I had seen once and said hello to, but it was basically a blind date. We doubled with Heidi and her almost-fiancé. The guys bought dinner and we took it up the canyon to the girls camp. Now, this guy, who I will call T., was almost 23 years old. He had been home from his mission for nearly two years, and was obviously on the lookout for a wife. Keep in mind that I was more than five years younger than him, and had graduated from high school only two months earlier.

T: I think you and I would be really good together.
me: Oh, really?

a little bit of small talk

T: I want to have 10 kids.
me: Are you kidding!? I want two, tops.

T: My parents co-own a nice restaurant. I have all of the secret recipes. (Insinuating that if we get married, I would have access to these recipes.)
me: Hmmm.

T: The Spirit told me we are going to be together.
me: He didn't tell me that!

Things were a titch awkward after that, and the date ended shortly after that. A few days later, he called and invited me over to his house (where he still lived with his parents). He had made a huge pot of soup, which was delicious by the way, and reminded me that this was one of the secret recipes from his parents' restaurant. I reminded him that I was 17 and not ready to get married, and wouldn't be for a very long time.

The next week, I had my wisdom teeth pulled and he brought me peach roses along with a note that said, "The roses are peach because you're kind of peachy and peaches are sweet and you're sweet too." We went on one more date after that, where he made one last ditch attempt to proclaim his undying love for me, and I rebuffed him.

Four months later I saw him at the grocery store with his new wife.

54 people wanted to leave a comment:

Heather of the EO said...

Oh my. The note with the peach roses is hilarious.

I guess he quickly recovered and found a wife who would have ten kids and cook all the time. :)

deb@virginia blue said...

Um, okay...that is just too funny.
I guess "you snooze, you lose"! And to think, Erin....you could've been the mother of 10 kids by now, barefoot and making soup in the kitchen...

bahahahaha! ;)

Annette Lyon said...

I've heard of guys like that--what I can't figure out is how he found a girl so willing to fall for it and so fast! Wow.

Rachel Sue said...

Yikes! Those are the guys you gotta watch out for. . . the crazy ones

Me (aka Danielle) said...

Wow! You let that one get away? ;)

Karen said...

I just happened to meet up with my son's ex-girlfriend's parents. They told me she got married to someone else right after she broke up with my son and now has four kids!

Pam said...

Was his new wife smiling? What a wacko!

Jillene said...

With a note like that it is SOOOO hard for me to believe that you let him get away!! (0;

Anonymous said...

HAA! I had an RM do something similar to me before I had even graduated. He gave me the whole "the Spirit told me" line, too! I told him exactly what you did! I got a wedding announcement from him about five months later, and as crazy would have it, I had just gotten married myself.

Christa said...

I wish that he really would have said the Spirit told him you were supposed to be together.

I would have had a very hard time resisting him after the soup. I really like soup.

Jillybean said...

Yikes!
Could he make anything besides soup?

I once went out on a second date with a guy to his mission reunion. After we had been there a while I realized that he had been telling people that we were engaged.

Juannaelmi said...

Nice. I had a crazy rm kind of stalking me when I was 16. It was really creepy and he was a brother to one of my friends.
Weird.
I can't believe the soup didn't do it for you though.

Becca said...

Good call on keeping your distance. Who cares about really great soup anyways?

Just SO said...

Yikes! I met a guy similar to that in college. Except he had already been divorced. Thankfully I was "waiting for a missionary" (kind of).

Christie // lemon squeezy home said...

Holy shnikey. That's just nuts, and totally funny!

Shelane said...

Classic.

Barbaloot said...

When he saw you did he say, "No soup for you!" ?

Kristina P. said...

I wonder how many kids they have!

Emmy said...

LOL! You always hear stories like that but wonder how true they are, we'll now we know of one true time. I wonder if their marriage lasted.

Britt said...

I wonder if he's still married...

Romney Family said...

that is too funny!! LOL!!

Jessica said...

Wow. Nothing says smooth talking in a relationship like "The spirit told me...". I'm shoked that you didn't run to the temple to get eloped right then and there!
Hahah, aren't you glad to not be dealing with that anymore.

Lara Neves said...

Those guys are SCARY. I dealt with one or two in college, but I would have been completely creeped out at age 17!

And, it's so embarrassing for me to read my journals sometimes. I cannot believe the boy craziness!

Laurie said...

Wow, that's hilarious! Some people just don't get it.

Hope you don't mind my reading your blog. I came over from Heather's. And by the looks of your sidebar, it looks like we read a few of the same blogs!

Becky said...

Ah, the old the-Spirit-told-me trick. Does that actually work on some people??

I think you're peachy and sweet too. :)

Heidi said...

I wonder if they are still together . . .. it might be fun to find out!

Mary said...

I had a friend like that...he was engaged 4 times!

If my husband bragged about all the recipes his family had, my thoughts would be about all the meals HE would be cooking :o)

Katie said...

Peachy? Wow. That note made me laugh. Too bad you didn't get the soup recipe out of him on that last date. Bummer.

Cluttered Brain said...

So sad you had to let him go right? :) I like the fact you went on one more date after the roses...Who can pass up a free meal? Score for you!
Glad you found you real honey...Do people actually say that? "The spirit has told me you and I...yeah that's right."
Crazy! Thanks for sharing!

Loralee and the gang... said...

Sounds like the type of guy who'd use the same recipe on every girl. . . SHE must have REAlly liked the soup!
:~D

Fiauna said...

Same thing happened to me. 17 and on a date with a 23-year-old RM on a mission to find a wife. I had to keep reminding him that I had only been out of high school for, like, three months. Finally, I had to come right out and tell him I wasn't interested. Seriously, not six months later, he was married with his first child on the way. Ick!

(And was Heidi THAT Heidi? I've wandered what happened to her)

rychelle said...

WIFE in four months?!? wow.

that must be really good soup.

nikkicrumpet said...

LOL...I'm sooooo glad you escaped his evil plan. What a doofus. He was way to desperate to get married...I hope the new wife gets the secret recipes in the divorce lol

Desta said...

I can't believe you let that man slip through your fingers. You must kick yourself on a daily basis. Right as dinner time approaches. "If only I had some secret recipes with which to draw from. Curses!"

Love the new blog look. Have you watched Survivor yet???????

Diane said...

Ewww! He sounds very creepy! I'm so glad you got away from him.

rich and steph said...

That is hilarious!! So glad you did not marry him and 17 is kind of young to get married:)

Kate said...

It sounds like he just wasn't getting it was he. Very funny story though.

Musings of the Mrs. said...

I just LOVE Mormon almost childbride stories like that. The spirit prompting on the first date gets me every time.

S said...

Ha, I love it! I'm so glad I'm not the only one who has awkward experiences like this.

mCat said...

Oh good laws! The Spirit told me we should be together.....
Glad you didn't end up there.
KooKOO

Lee said...

I guess some women respond to that sort of thing?
I would think it was creepy...
The spirit telling him you should be together... yeesh.

rachel said...

That is hilarious! Way to stay strong and not let his beautiful love note sway your decision...I wonder if it was the same poetic verse that inspired his wife??? Maybe they met at that same grocery store in the produce isle and he gave her an entire love/fruit sonnet...

Emily said...

Oh my gosh! That is too funny!

BTW. Love your blog.

Elisa said...

Barbaloot totally stole my comment!

Now I've got nothin'.

Devri said...

I got nuttin' neider!!! that is waht I get for getting on here at midnight i guess..

have a great day tomorrow!

LisAway said...

Okay, now THAT is a great story. How funny. What an exciting dating life you had.

Liz said...

That is funny! I wouldn't care for the new recipes.. I would just hope he would cook!

Anonymous said...

I was just telling my husband a similar story yesterday, because we saw a Hawaiian barbecue place in Provo and Dean said "There used to be one over there," and pointed. I said:

"Yeah, I went there just one time. My coworker set me up with this guy, so I guess it was a blind date, and we walked to that Hawaiian barbecue place for dinner [I'm remembering now that the guy didn't have a car, so we walked all over Provo on the date,] and I knew right away that I wasn't interested, so when he called to ask me out again I said 'No, thanks.' My roommates were all shocked because they thought it was horrible to say no to any date -- crazy. And he asked if he could please come over and talk to me, and really, looking back, I should have said no to that, too, but I gave in, so he comes over and he's all, 'I thought we really hit it off -- I thought we were going to get married.' I don't even remember exactly what I said -- but obviously I told him I didn't think so. So then about four months later I found out he'd gotten married."

tiburon said...

Oh that is a riot!

Guess he was just itching to get married.

I do think you are peachy though :)

in time out said...

Heylllo, Came by to say thanks for being my blog friend.

This is an awesome post.

I have awarded you the NENO award....Have fun, pass it along, and thanks for the friendship. cyberhug...♥

Jen said...

Oh that is a CLASSIC! Ha. I always laugh when the guy throws in the "the spirit told me you're the one". Guess he convinced the next girls it was so! :)

Lady of Perpetual Chaos said...

That is fabulous! I wonder what they're doing now....

Anonymous said...

That's a kick. Some guys are insane.

When I was 13 (just finishing 8th grade) our stake split, and I ended up in the new stake, which was now in a new mission. One of the elders who'd been serving in our ward but was now no longer in my mission started writing me. Like, courting me, writing me-- as if I were the girl waiting for him back home. HELLO? I'd still be about 18 months from even being able to date when he got home from his mission. (He wasn't even very cute! ;o) )

Jessi said...

I love your stories! I think they're so funny!! Maybe it's the way you tell them but... I don't think I have half as many stories as you do!