Dear insecure Erin,
Why do you always sneak up on me?
Why do I feel ugly when I haven't brushed my hair? Or when I have a zit?
Why do I worry that maybe someone didn't like the last few comments I have left on their blog, and that's why they haven't stopped by my blog lately?
Why do I overreact to things that don't really matter?
Why do I think that someone doesn't like me, just because he or she never responded to my e-mail?
Why do I worry about what others think?
Why am I letting my insecurities affect my self-esteem?
STOP IT! STOP IT RIGHT NOW!
Go away, insecure me.
Sincerely,
The real Erin
(Thursday morning edit: Apparently, I'm so insecure that last night I had a dream I didn't get any comments on this post because people thought I was whiny. So, either thank you Heather of the EO or darn you for talking me into posting this!)
Thursday, October 23
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Take a deep breath.
You are good enough. Smart enough.
And doggone it - people like you!
Don't we all feel like that some of the time? And you are good enough, and people do like you! If they don't, you didn't really want them around anyway because they don't have good taste, right?
I think that we are all insecure in our own ways. No one is perfect so don't feel bad--you are who you are and we all must like you because we keep coming back for more!!
Because you're human? And a human female at that? :) I think all of those feelings are 100% normal, the key is just to quickly realize that all of us feel this way to a degree, and yes, STOP IT! (That clip was hilarious, BTW. I've never seen it before. But then, I don't ever watch TV).
My favorite thing to remember when I'm worried about what people think of me, is that they are probably so wrapped up in themselves, that they are thinking of me a lot less than I think. And then I go out and do something nice for someone because that always gets me out of my selfish insecure thoughts.
You are wonderful!
Erin you are great, I think we all feel this way and just don't admit it, How theraputic for all of us to know a smartie pants like you even feels this way sometimes.
we all feel that way at sometime or another! I'll tell myself to STOP IT! next time I think this silly way!
You are not alone in thinking this way. That negative little voice is just trying to keep us from doing the things we love! So blog baby, blog we'll keep coming!
Actually, that letter could have been written by me to me. So, don't worry. You've not alone, we all have the same problem.
P.S. I currently have a giant zit right in the middle of my forehead. In fact, my 8 year old saw it and was actually scared. He said in a terrified, shaky voice, "What is that THING on your face?" Made me feel really good.
I'm pretty sure you've got nothing to worry about. The other day a little girl came into my office and told me she thought I was ugly. I've never been told I was ugly by someone who had dried snot all over their face. New experiences rock.
i think i have this exact same letter addressed to dear rychelle....
Who wouldn't comment on your blog? It's only 9:30 and you've already got 10 (now 11) comments! Keep up the good blogging.
Tell "insecure Erin" to take a hike!
Good job! I'm really glad you did this. Especially since it appears I'm ALL for laying it all out there today...sheesh.
Thank you for your email(s)-I will respond later today (naptime) :)
You know, I've been thinking about this a lot in regards to blogging, since the secret post. There were many secrets about leaving fake comments to look more popular, or noticing when someone doesn't leave a comment, or they wished their blog was as popular as sos and so's, etc.
I think that blogging is wonderful, but it also brings out a lot of insecurities and a lot of behavior that is almost high schoolish. It's hard not to get sucked in.
I generally don't notice if someone doesn't comment on my blog, unless it's been weeks, but even then, I wonder if I offended them, or they don't like my blog anymore, etc. I think it's an unfortunate side effect of doing something we love.
I know Kristina. I totally agree with you. I am really trying hard to be myself, to not portray my life as "perfect," and to not worry about comments and so forth.
It's not easy, but I want to be real, and not fake.
Ooh, I hear you completely! I'll be totally happy, life is great, then bam--I get sucked into thinking negative thoughts about myself and that totally prevents me from being all I can be! It's good to know that so many of us feel that way though. I love you Erin!
NO comments no way! I battle the insecurity demons myself. Hate em...you hate my comment too dont you
I'm proud of you Erin for taking risks and being yourself.
Thank you honey. I love you!
"just stop it!" I tell myself this all the time.(and not just over cyber-stuff) And when I catch myself getting a little too sucked in, I pre-schedule a couple of posts and then just walk away from the 'puter for a few days and reconnect with what's real in my life. Not that this is not real, but its not tangible, and it can be emotional, and there's not much accountability, and it can get weird really fast. I always feel better after I've walked away for a couple days.
Sometimes I'd love to push the mute button on Insecure Jennifer. I'll have to remind myself to Stop It when she shows up!
Insecure Mary is the most dominant of all Mary's. I wish she'd just shut up. It's nice to know other people feel the same way.
Yeah, it's funny. The insecure me will go away for weeks at a time sometimes, only to rear her ugly head and take complete control of everything again! I totally talk to myself like good old bob in that clip sometimes. Just STOPIT! How hard can it be?
I agree- sometimes it is great to take a day or two off of the computer and phone and e-mails. Just veg out and don't answer anyone!
Also- I love this advice; if you wouldn't say it to a dear friend, than don't say to yourself!
We like you. We really do like you :)
Love ya Erin
We all have our insecure days when the real us has a hard time coming out
Don't you hate those days? I do too. UGGGHHHH! It makes me feel better to know that EVERYONE has those days.. even the ones we are comparing ourselves to. :) Love ya!
Don't you hate those days? I do too. UGGGHHHH! It makes me feel better to know that EVERYONE has those days.. even the ones we are comparing ourselves to. :) Love ya!
What a great post. I think every woman alive can relate to some portion of this. I know about 99% of it I thought... yeah...me too. Thanks for being REAL!
Aww man! Tib's took my line...
I do what clan does-- I post ahead and then just walk away... It's too easy to get sucked in to the madness... There is always going to someone higher up on the food chain, and so I have told my crazylady (my version of the insecure me) to take a hike! I chained her up in my closet and have shut the door.
Besides, I like ya! Your blog is great!
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